What you need to know about the female orgasm: to be a remarkable sexual partner

If we continue reviewing surveys, we come across a survey on Sexual Health and Behavior elaborated by the University of Indiana (USA). The data from this survey are very alarming. When it comes to orgasm, 91% of men experienced orgasm during their last sexual intercourse compared to 64% of the women surveyed. Of course, the figure decreases if we talk about the first time they had sex.

Impediments to sexual response

The 55% of males achieved this compared to a minimal percentage on the part of females of only 4%. In general, the experts calculate impressive data. 10% of women have never experienced an orgasm or anything like it.. In order to understand the reasons for this phenomenon, it is necessary to reflect on several issues at the same time.

We must think "sexual response". in general. This is how sexual relations work, when faced with certain stimuli, a sexual response occurs, with a greater or lesser disposition. This, of course, involves the body. However, the mind and the body operate at the same time. That is to say, both are working together in a complex way. Therefore, It is necessary that both function in certain ways so that in response to certain stimuli there is a sexual response, in order for an orgasm to occur. 

A wide variety of factors create impediments to orgasm. Problems such as a history of sexual abuse, rape; even boredom, fatigue, lack of physical activity, and stress. It can occur due to a lack of sexual knowledge, negative attitudes, shyness, or various types of complexes. In many cases, these are medical conditions, and with a few simple prescription medications or advices the sexual response increases its performance and its self-flow. There are also medications for chronic diseases, depression, hormonal disorders, pelvic pain caused by endometriosis, damaged nerves or vaginal dryness.

Parenting and sexuality

For many people, not being able to climax can be the cause of a lethal combination. The mixture of a strict and generally religious upbringing and a lack of understanding of one's own body. For both women and men, knowing one's own body is fundamental. Finding such low percentages in the female orgasmsIt makes sense for us to emphasize that it is not so easy for them to reach orgasm. Boys, on the other hand, do not generally have such problems; at least not often. It is important to know that women, especially, associate many emotions with sex. This is also true for menIn them, the sexual relations that lead to orgasm most of the time are of a more mechanical nature. 

A woman, on the other hand, if she was raised to believe that sex is 'bad' or 'dirty,' probably won't feel comfortable. Nor is she comfortable with you touching her genitals or allowing someone else to do so.

For many women, even pronouncing the word vagina can be problematic and carries a negative emotional charge. Some women may also lack the courage to talk about the difficulties they are experiencing, either to their partner or to their doctor. The origin of the embarrassment may be in this case that they have never felt an orgasm and do not want to go through the trouble of confessing it to someone.

As anyone would feel in that position, it happens that you can play pretend. The idea is to pretend that you have actually experienced the sensation. "Every time there's a conversation about it, I get the impression that reaching orgasm is easy for everyone except me," says one 24-year-old. "I spend all those sexual conversations feeling like a fraud," says another.

Education and information

It does not circulate in general, or it circulates in a covertly formal manner than learning to reach the orgasm for a woman may require a skill, a technique, a self-awareness and the other. 

It is very difficult to find a young girl in our western world who has not seen a movie or classmates imitate the movement of men masturbating.

Although all men have a general idea of how they climax, it is a totally different matter, given the situation. For women, onanism, i.e. self-masturbation, is something that is learned: you are not born knowing how to do it instinctively. It is necessary to get an idea for how many men it is also like this when it comes to the female orgasm. Learning how to make a woman reach orgasm is as important as it is interesting, but it also requires attention.

If you want to continue, as we have done through our ArgentinaXP articles to be a great sexual partner, you should know that orgasms originate of course in the clitoris. It is important to know where it is and how to stimulate it effectively.. It is essential as a heterosexual man that you know the female sexual response system and how you are supposed to get there.

An expert on female sexuality tells women:

"Forget about your partner giving you your first orgasm (maybe they do, but it's not the norm). Don't expect it: few ever climax with a man for the first time (although the statistics for lesbians may be different) because they also have no idea what they're doing at first."

How can men have such a bad reputation as sexual partners?! From this space we seek to change that so you can return to your favorite escort when you want, the best sexual pleasure. To do this you must acquire information through sex education.

Key to female orgasm

A 2010 survey in the Journal of Sexual Medicine found that 81% of women who had oral sex in their last sexual encounter had clitoral orgasm, compared to 60% who had vaginal stimulation. Expert Cox says to women: "You can also achieve it by turning off the brain. The fact that a woman requires this extra neurological step may explain why it takes her on average three to ten times longer than a man to achieve it.“.

But whether this works strictly for all women is not something we claim in our space, and it certainly can work for many men as well.

You must make him feel at ease and lose control.
"The key to orgasm is in the loss of control, Therein lies the whole meaning. In an orgasm one loses, for a few milliseconds, the control of the corporeality, which is so conscious in the excitement. It is necessary to allow yourself to lose control; it is likely that many women will not want to, or cannot, go through the experience freely and without prejudice.

She continues: "Pleasure is linked to whether I let myself be carried away by what I feel or if I am alert to see what happens to me or thinking about how I look, how I look at that moment, what image I am giving, what I feel physically or if the other person will like it or not". A specialist assures.

With this knowledge we men can get a better idea of what the female sexual response is like in general and how to apply this knowledge to better sexual performance.

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